Even if you’re absolutely certain that divorce is the best thing for you, it’s never easy to have this conversation with your children. Even if your children are older, you can expect them to have a variety of questions about your divorce and what’s to come in the future.
Here are five questions you should prepare to answer:
- Why is this happening? It’s not always easy to answer this question, as you don’t always know what lead to your divorce. The best thing you can do is respond in an honest manner.
- Can we all live together after the divorce? You realize this isn’t possible, but your children may not. Take the time to explain how things will change in regard to living arrangements.
- Will you get married again in the future? It’s a difficult question to answer, as there’s no way to predict what will happen. Again, honesty is the best policy here. Let your children know it’s possible and you’ll always let them know what’s going on.
- How is my life going to change? Tell your children you’ll do whatever it takes to help them maintain their current lifestyle. If something will change, such as where they live or go to school, talk through these details.
- Are you getting a divorce because of me? Many children think they’re to blame. You know this isn’t true, so make it clear early on.
Since most children have questions about the divorce process, prepare to answer each one without delay.
Once you feel better about your children and their feelings, it’s easier to turn your attention to the divorce process and the things you must do to protect your legal rights.